Sunday 4 March 2012

Why SEXY is not necessarily a compliment......

Ok, so we all WANT to be sexy - its the basis of most of our fashion media, why we wear outfits that flatter, colour/style our hair, wear make up - I could go on.....

However....it seems that telling complete strangers that they are 'sexy' has become a compliment??!!! Well excuse me for being a little old fashioned, but... sexy by definition means that you find that person sexually attractive and or are sexually aroused....and some things are just not necessary to express..... (and to those who say that it doesn't MEAN that when people say it/is said to them - buy a dictionary!!!!!).

When you approach a stranger and tell them they are sexy (hey sexy, wow your sooo sexy for example)... you are telling them something very intimate, that they may not wish to know, about the affect that they have on you..... you might aswell flash your bits at them and be done..and we all know THAT is inappropriate (I hope).

Our very existance should afford us the basics of respect, add to that personal proclivities and relationship status and you should be thinking a great deal about how you approach someone ... first impressions last after all.

It rather saddens me that this will end up being a subject of controversy, that women will sneer at my thoughts and encourage men to be over familiar in such a manner. But we really must think what it is we are teaching to our children, both male and female, about the boundaries that online social networking (and where would we be without it in all honesty) has so successfully blurred.....

Just think how you would feel/react if a stranger walked up to you in the street, walked into your personal space and said ' hey sexy'.......what if it was a strange man doing it to one of your female relatives..... just because its online does not make it any less inappropriate, invasive or insulting.....it just means that consequences are at a minimum and its easier for people to refuse to respect you - dont let them persuade YOU to disrespect yourself by allowing them liberties....